Teens and dating violence
Question: What is teen-dating violence?
Teen dating violence is a romantic relationship that centers on aggressive, abusive and controlling behavior.
Question: What warning signs indicate teen-dating violence?
Answer: Telling their partner what to wear, who to hang out with and what to do. It can also involve:
- Name calling
- Continuously putting their partner down
- Shoving, punching, pinching, slapping, kicking, hair pulling, choking
- Continuously calling or phone texting
- Threatening partner if they don't do what they want
- Unwanted touching/kissing
- Forcing partner to have sex or other sexual behaviors
Question: What do you do if you are in a teen-dating violence situation?
- Talk to a trusted person. (Parent, friend, teacher, coach, nurse or school counselor)
- Set firm limits and consequences for your partner about any abusive or controlling behavior.
- Be clear about what behaviors are acceptable and which behaviors are not.
- Encourage your partner to get help.
- Don't except any excuse from your partner. (Making excuses and blaming are common characteristics of an abuser)
- Remember violent behavior is a choice.
- Realize it is not your fault.
Nothing that you say or do gives anyone the right to hurt you.
Question: What are safe teen-dating tips?
- Go out in a group or with other couples, especially if you do not know your partner very well.
- Let friends and family know where you are going and when you are expecting to be back.
- Carry money or calling card for transportation or if you need help.
- Carry a cell phone.
- Remember…you cannot change your partner; you can only take care of your own safety.
Question: Where can I go for additional help or treatment?
Answer: Arizona Coalition of Against Domestic Violence 602-248-8336