Teens and dating violence

Answer:  Teen dating violence is a romantic relationship that centers on aggressive, abusive and controlling behavior.

Question: What warning signs indicate teen-dating violence?

Answer: Telling their partner what to wear, who to hang out with and what to do. It can also involve:

• Jealousy
• Name calling
• Continuously putting their partner down
• Shoving, punching, pinching, slapping, kicking, hair pulling, choking
• Continuously calling or phone texting
• Threatening partner if they don't do what they want
• Unwanted touching/kissing
• Forcing partner to have sex or other sexual behaviors

Question: What do you do if you are in a teen-dating violence situation?

Answer:

• Talk to a trusted person. (Parent, friend, teacher, coach, nurse or school counselor)
• Set firm limits and consequences for your partner about any abusive or controlling behavior.
• Be clear about what behaviors are acceptable and which behaviors are not.
• Encourage your partner to get help.
• Don't except any excuse from your partner. (Making excuses and blaming are common characteristics of an abuser)
• Remember violent behavior is a choice.
• Realize it is not your fault.

Nothing that you say or do gives anyone the right to hurt you.

Question: What are safe teen-dating tips?

Answer:

• Go out in a group or with other couples, especially if you do not know your partner very well.
• Let friends and family know where you are going and when you are expecting to be back.
• Carry money or calling card for transportation or if you need help.
• Carry a cell phone.
• Remember…you cannot change your partner; you can only take care of your own safety.

Question: Where can I go for additional help or treatment?

Answer: Arizona Coalition of Against Domestic Violence  602-248-8336