A trip to the doctor or other health care provider can be stressful for anyone, but it can be especially scary for kids. They may worry about vaccinations, being examined or just being in an unfamiliar place.
You want your child to get the care they need but you may also worry about tears in the waiting room or a battle over shots. The good news is that doctor visits don’t have to feel overwhelming.
Russell Horton, MD, a pediatrician with Banner Children’s, shares nine ways you can prepare your child for their next appointment in a way that reduces fear and builds trust.
1. Do a quick review before you go
In the rush of daily life it’s easy to forget details, even details about your child’s health history.
“It sounds crazy but we can actually forget things like a past surgery or even something like ear tubes,” Dr. Horton said. “Having that history fresh in your mind helps the visit go more smoothly.”
Before the appointment, jot down any recent illnesses, medications, allergies and past hospitalizations. You’ll feel more confident walking in and you won’t be scrambling to remember in front of your provider.
2. Write down your top concerns
Doctor visits can often feel like a blur, especially if your child is squirmy, shy or upset. You might leave and realize you forgot to ask about that sleep issue or rash.
Dr. Horton recommends bringing a short list of questions. “Your provider wants to talk about everything with you but time may be limited,” he said. “Having your priorities really helps streamline the visit.”
Think about what’s been on your mind: Is your child waking up at night? Struggling with behavior? Not eating well? Writing it down helps you leave with answers.
3. Pick the best time for your child
You know your child’s rhythms better than anyone. Some kids fall apart at nap time. Others are cranky if they miss a snack.
“You want to schedule ahead of time, so you get the spot you want,” Dr. Horton said. “If they nap at noon, let’s get them in before or after that. Younger kids often do better in the mornings.”
You may not have the option if your child is unwell, but try to book the appointment when they are well-rested and fed.
4. Talk about the visit ahead of time
No one likes surprises. Be open with your child about where they will be going and why. Give your child at least one or two days’ notice. Too much advanced warning may lead to more worry.
“Being honest with your child about what to expect really helps,” Dr. Horton said. “They don’t feel like you tried to trick them.”
If your child is going to get a vaccination, don’t say: “It won’t hurt.” Instead, try: “If you need a shot, it might sting for a few seconds but it helps keep you healthy.” Kids can handle honesty, especially when it comes from you.
Dr. Horton also suggests watching TV episodes that show their favorite characters visiting the doctor. “You can use this as your jumping off point to discuss what will happen at their visit,” he said.
5. Use words they understand
A toddler doesn’t need a medical lecture about vaccines. But an older child may want details.
“With little kids, don’t try to get too technical. It’s just going to scare them more,” Dr. Horton said. “With older kids, you can be a little more detailed and encourage them to share what’s on their mind.”
Match the language to your child’s age. For little ones, you might say: “The doctor is going to listen to your heart with a stethoscope. It’s like a tiny microphone.” For teens, encourage them to ask their own questions.
6. Remind them their provider is a helper
Some kids may think their provider wants to poke and prod them, especially if they have regular sick visits. Reassure them that’s not true.
“Your child’s provider is there to keep them healthy,” Dr. Horton said. “They’re not trying to hurt your child. They’re on the same team.”
Your child may be more likely to cooperate when they see their provider as someone who genuinely cares about them, rather than someone to fear.
7. Pack comfort items
Even if the appointment is quick, sitting in the waiting room can feel long. A favorite toy, blanket or stuffed animal can give your child something familiar to hold. Plan a reward or positive activity afterward, like going to the park.
Snacks and water can also be helpful, especially for younger children. Just double check if your child needs to fast for blood work.
These small comforts can make a difference in how your child handles the day.
8. Practice coping strategies
Some kids calm down with deep breaths. Others need distraction. Practice simple strategies before you go, such as blowing bubbles, singing a song or counting together.
Older kids may prefer bringing headphones or listening to music during shots. You know what works best for your child.
9. Model calm and confidence
Kids can sense your emotions. If you’re nervous, they’ll pick up on it.
Even if your child cries, try to stay calm but supportive. Offer comfort, praise their bravery and remind them that they did something important for their health.
After the appointment, praise them for their bravery, even if they were nervous. Remind them what they did well.
Takeaway
“Nothing takes away all the fear,” Dr. Horton said. “But if you set your child up for success with honesty, planning and reassurance, the visit will go much more smoothly.”
Your child may not love going to the doctor, but with these strategies you’ll make the experience less stressful.
Is your child scheduled for their next well check? Book your next appointment with a Banner Health specialist to get support, ask questions and ensure your child’s care is built around comfort and trust.
